thewiru said:
A couple days ago, there was a post that went somewhat viral on Brazillian internet: A girl made a tweet complaining on how hard was to find good men nowadays, telling of a recent experience of hers where she told a guy that she worked with cinema and he said "So yeah, recently I saw a movie named 'The Godfather', ever heard of it?" in a somewhat smug tone.
One thing I noticed in most groups is that most people there didn't understand why she was mad at it, and thought she was just being a harlot, but I did (And some few other people also did), and I noticed that noticing this is like a "sixth sense" you get when you're very into a hobby (The other person that understood was very into pro-wrestling, I did it because I'm very into anime and otaku culture)... so people started calling us "insufferable".
This story here, i can't really tell who's in the right or wrong, who's being insufferable, not without hearing the guy's tone of voice while saying that, was he really being smug? Or was she really being insufferable?
Generally phrases like that, about super popular stuff everyone has heard about, are said as a joke, maybe even a bit flirtatiosly if you like the other person, so if she's getting mega-annoyed at a joke, she is insufferable
The situation takes a 180 though if what he's doing instead is making fun, ridiculing, her hobby, in this case she has every right to be angry at him for being a prick
But the only way to know for sure which of the 2 it is is to observe things like his tone of voice, facial expression, and mannerisms, you simply can't gage these things thru text
thewiru said:
I like being knowledgeable about anime, but that seriously limits my interactions with people (I would still choose it regardless). In 2019 I just couldn't talk with anyone in college, because while they talked about entry-level powerscaling and stuff like "Ash is in a comma"... I was watching 15 seasonals at once, and also the Director's cut of Evangelion.
I don't know what causes, but it's simply a feeling of annoyance when you speak with normies, and a feeling of deep elation when you speak with someone "at your level" (I feel good talking to people here on MAL, for instance).
As for this, the way you worded it, does sound a lil insufferable, especially phrases like this "I don't know what causes, but it's simply a feeling of annoyance when you speak with normies, and a feeling of deep elation when you speak with someone "at your level"", that "at your level" smells a bit of narcissism
But like with the first story, i can't tell that for sure just based on text, the way you say it, your tone of voice, could change the whole perception of whst you say
thewiru said:
Someone called this "low intellectual self-esteem, like a young child that gets happy when their teacher compliments them from being able to write a new letter, but feels angry and they also compliment a classmate that wrote it with a visibly worse calligraphy"
And this, yes, is true, feeling anger because someone who is good, but not as good as you, is also getting complimented, is a sign of low self-esteem, key word here "is also getting complimented", the situation of course changes if the person not as good as you is getting complimented instead of you, then yes, be angry, and rightfully so, being confident in one's ability is not low self-esteem
Now if you translate this concept to anime/manga, this is where things get a lil complicated, as regardless of great production value, writing, animation, artstyle, anime/manga taste IS subjective
So say you're talking manga with someone, and things go something like this
"You get happy when your friend compliments Land Of The Lustrous (one of your fav manga), but feel angry as they also compliment My Hero Academia (a manga you dropped)"
If this is what is going on in your head when having such a conversation, then i'm sorry to say, that is a sign of low self-esteem in your personal taste
It is perfectly fine to have dislikes, to find certain things boring or generic or entry-level, but there are ways to acknowledge those thoughts without feeling anger about them, that is the difference between intelectual maturity and low intelectual self-esteem
